You appear to be doing well on the outside…
You may be successful, capable, and deeply thoughtful, while still feeling burned out, disconnected, or unsure whether the life you have built actually fits.
Many clients come to me already skilled, they’ve read the books, tried the strategies, built the coping toolkit. But skills alone often fall short when shame is running the show underneath them, and it’s hard to use a tool when you’re convinced something is fundamentally wrong with you.
If you are Neurocomplex, you may have spent years learning how to adapt, mask, people-please, and push through, just to keep up with expectations that were never designed with your brain in mind.
Therapy can be a place to slow down and begin separating who you are from who you had to become to feel accepted, safe, productive, or “good.”
I work with Neurocomplex adults, especially those who identify with Autism, ADHD, OCD, or the overlap between them, whether formally diagnosed or self-identified.
You were never meant to build a life around pretending you are fine.
What We’ll Work On Together
Getting to know your neurotype
Understanding how your brain works, what supports you, what overwhelms you, and what you may have been taught to hide or override.
Finding what actually works for you
Building supports, rhythms, communication tools, boundaries, and systems that fit your real brain and life, instead of forcing yourself into neurotypical expectations.
Understanding burnout
Naming the emotional, sensory, relational, and executive functioning exhaustion that can come from years of pushing through.
Exploring masking and self-protection
Looking at how hiding your needs, traits, communication style, or limits may have helped you survive, while also slowly wearing you down.
Untangling relationship patterns
Exploring dynamics where you feel unseen, dismissed, over-responsible, or like you are always the one doing the emotional labor.
Moving beyond people-pleasing and role-conforming
Noticing where you have been performing the “good,” capable, agreeable, or productive version of yourself, chasing affirmation from others instead of your own sense of what’s right, and exploring who you are when you are not organizing your life around others’ comfort.
Rethinking work, purpose, and productivity
Looking at how career expectations, productivity culture, masking, and burnout may be shaping your choices, and what more aligned work or next steps could look like, even when leaving isn’t an option and the goal is finding more room to be yourself within it.
Therapy in SE Portland & Across Oregon
Whether you’re looking for in-person sessions or the flexibility of online therapy, I offer both.
My office is located in SE Portland, and I also provide secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth for adults across Oregon. Get in touch now to schedule a free 15 min consult. I’d love to hear from you.